Yes, there is a concept called "good grief," although it might sound contradictory at first. "Good grief" refers to the idea that grieving or mourning the loss of a loved one or experiencing a significant life change can be a healthy and necessary process. While grief is often associated with feelings of sadness, pain, and loss, it can also have positive aspects:
Healing and growth: Grief can be a transformative process that allows individuals to heal and grow emotionally. It can provide an opportunity for self-reflection, personal development, and most of all coping mechanisms or the mechanics of coping.
Honoring the past: Grief can be a way of honoring the memory of the person or thing that was lost. It can serve as a way to celebrate their life or the value of what was lost. I would suggest finding ways like releasing a balloon with a message for every year they are gone. You can do this at birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, etc. It really helps to engage in the idea that you are still loving what you lost. We do this for my daughter.
Building resilience: Going through grief and coming out on the other side can build resilience and emotional strength. It can help people develop better emotional and psychological coping skills.
Deepening relationships: People often find healthy connections while providing or receiving support from others. I have personally met so many wonderful people whole on my journey. It has been such a blessing to grow together.
It's important to understand that grief is a highly individual and personal experience, and it can manifest differently for each person. While there can be positive aspects to the grieving process, it can also be very challenging and painful. Ultimately, the idea of "good grief" acknowledges that grief is a natural response to loss and that it can lead to personal growth and positive changes in a person's life over time.
Do yourself a favor. Take care of yourself first.
Be Healed and Whole,
Glorya Bolden
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